So if your ex is not allowing you to see your children you have a difficult choice to make for them?:
- walk away and your child suffers all the numerous effects of abandonment and the loss of a parent or
- stay and battle for your child’s right to have both parents in their lives and have the consequences below.
or hope one day:
- the other parent will wake up and realise the damage they are causing or
- the judiciary will recognise which parent is not able to compromise, co-parent, collaborate and put the children first.
Putting Children First – to help families involved in custody disputes. VIDEO
Ayob, C., Deutch, R. Andronicki, M. (1999) Emotional Distress in Children of High Conflict Divorce; Impact of Marital Conflict and Violence. Family & Conciliation Courts Review, Vol. 37, No. 3. P. 297-315
· Paraphrased results from the research listed above: The emotional profile who’s parents have been fighting over them, turn out like children who have their parents removed.
· Regardless of children’s age:
- · 65% of the children show symptoms of anxiety where they end up in therapy.
- · Increasing symptoms of anxiety
- · 56% develop attachment disorder (they fear abandonment and being hurt, therefore their friendships suffer and battle to become functioning adults with health emotional relationships, and don’t trust anyone.)
- · 48% end up with fears and phobias without explanation.
- · 44% including girls become physically aggressive
- · 31% suffer sleep disorders.
- · 29% become withdrawn and uninterested in previous activities
- · 27% clinically depressed
- · 24% oppositional behaviour
- · 21% prematurely sexualised (both girls and boys)
- · 13% bed wetting into their adolescence
- · 10% so psychiatrically impaired that they become disassociated.
- · Children who’s parents fight over them and restrict contact, come out with a psychological profile of an abused child as they are being emotionally abused.