UK – Equal Parenting Alliance – Announces – ‘The Charter for Fathers’

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Onward – Jim

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Equal Parenting Alliance are pleased to announce our new ‘Charter for Fathers’. We intend aiming this charter at the younger male population to alert them to the potential pitfalls if they are having marital or family problems.

 

‘The Charter for Fathers’

(Bringing Families Together)

 

Separation and divorce can be a nasty and bitter experience for every one concerned especially the children. 90% of fathers that lose out but it can happen to mothers too.. You would not believe your new loving sweetheart, telling each other you will always be theirs, could be anything else but loving and gentle.

 

 We just hope you will not experience any of these horrors but!

Too often we’ve heard “I just can’t believe it, that she/he could go to these extremes like telling lies about domestic violence and using the children for revenge and blackmail to get back at me for their own selfish means”.

 

If you are having marital problems or heading that way get in touch with a family group for advice. Do not delay and do not try to work it out yourself or force your will on anyone. Contact any of us listed on the back page before you do anything, and we mean anything. If we can’t help we will know a man that can.

 

1.   Urgent! Firstly contact an outside family agency, someone not involved with the family and keep contact throughout. You must resolve this without any aggression or incidents. If you don’t heed this you will possibly lose your children as well.

 

2.      Do not approach or contact your ex-partner until you speak to someone for advice.

 

3.      Do not swear or raise your voice or obstruct in any way. if you do come in contact with your ex-partner or their family.

 

4.    If the police become involved move away as directed immediately. The police have no stomach for family problems.  Do not argue or try to reason as you will get removed and possibly charged with breach or harassment and it will never be removed from your record, even if you are innocent.  It could be used against you if courts or Social Services get involved. Don’t give them any excuse or you will be indefensible and not even we can help. You have been warned!

 

5. You will have to fight for any rights you do have regarding your children. It is equal on paper but don’t be fooled by this, in reality if you don’t live with your children, in the eyes of Social services, schools and the police you have no rights at all. Always have witnesses to everything you do and record everything in a diary.

 

6.    If you need a solicitor make sure they are family law specialists as others could possibly take your case and lack the expertise.  Be prepared to do most of the case work yourself, they are your children, make sure you get things right, you will only get one chance.

 

7.    Mediation has resolved many disputes before a molehill becomes a mountain, before it goes into the real slanging match, accusing and condemning in court. You don’t want to be the cause of them saying, “you are angry and aggressive so I won’t attend mediation”. Give no excuses for them to refuse to attend. Make sure that the mediation is provided by an independent organisation like Family Mediation.  They ask for donations only. You will find them in your local phone book or computer.

 

8.     There also appears to be a standard template used by the parent with residency so do not be alarmed to find yourself falsely accused and branded as:-

a) Violent   b)Controlling    c)Abusive    d)Aggressive

all used to alienate you from your children.

 

9.   Above all try and gain agreement without involvement of lawyers, courts, police or Social Services.  If you gain a court order for contact it is not always complied with and is often not enforced making a mockery of the law. Your children have nothing to gain by these agencies involvement and very real, significant harm can come of it.

 

10.    Seek help as soon you can from a help group and keep in touch with their meetings.

 

Contacts-

http://www.equalparentingalliance.org/contact

  Rae –        0790 550 2856-   Wolverhampton

  Brian –     01786 812 941-   Stirling and the East

        Mark-      07941803423     -Ayrshire

 

Or

 

http://www.grandparentsapart.co.uk/

Jimmy –     0141 882 5658 –  UK

Jim –          01389 874 095-   Clydebank and the west

Charlie –    01324 410 064-    Larbet

Bill –           01563 821 869-   Ayrshire

Richard –   01224 297 175-   Aberdeen & the north

Eamonn –  0141 580 0102-    Barrhead & the west

Frank-       01492 874 395-    Wales

 

Volunteer organisations funded by members & donations

 

Join or donate on line http://www.equalparentingalliance.org/contact

 

Or contact:-

Equal Parenting Alliance
27 School Grove
Manchester
M20 4RY

0790 550 2856

 

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